Went thru some tests specially offered by astrology.com on my birthday... i'll post all the results here...
MY RELATIONSHIP STYLE
In order to find out who suit u better, u have to know who u r exactly. hmmm, similar to 'judging oneself before judging another', i think. The test was based on my childhood experienced. There are three categories:
- Isolator: If you are an Isolator, you need a lot of personal space. Isolators minimize emotion, are often guarded and unconsciously push people away, keeping them at a distance.
- Fuser: If you are a Fuser, you have an insatiable appetite for closeness and don't like being alone. Fusers crave attention and are sometimes described as clingy.
- Ambivalent: If you are an Ambivalent, you are a little bit of both. Ambivalents like to pull away, yet they want to feel close at the same time. They can also be confusing and hard to read.
and the results is... I'M an AMBIVALENT!
MY CHILDHOOD EXPERIENCES
> Your childhood experiences show that you are an Ambivalent. As a child, you probably received plenty of love and affection from your parents but were also allowed to form your own sense of independence. Your parents may have upset you and let you down at times, but your childhood needs were essentially met. Therefore, as an adult, you have traits that are common in both Isolators and Fusers, two polar opposites. This means that your relationship style includes many interesting contradictions. You've been known to both push people away and expect them to dote on you at the same time. Freedom is just as appealing to you as being showered with affection.
MY PERFECT PARTNER
> As an Ambivalent, you're uniquely qualified to have a successful relationship with a partner from either category: Fusers or Isolators.In your case, "happily ever after" depends on which role you find yourself adopting more often. If you're usually the outgoing one in the relationship, often seeking affection and attention, you're more of a Fuser. This means that your perfect partner is actually your opposite type, an Isolator. You may have guessed just the contrary, that your best match would be someone who would shower you with all the love and affection you crave. But happiness for you means partnering with someone who will respect your privacy and support you when you want to do independent activities, much like your parents did.
>If you're often a private person who likes her space, you're more of an Isolator. This means that your perfect partner is actually your opposite type, a Fuser. Contrary to what you might have thought, your best match is not someone who gives you all the space and freedom you crave. Instead, your best bet for long-term happiness is partnering with someone who dotes on you, someone who shows his affection and expresses his emotions easily and often, just as your parents did.
my comment: It's pretty accurate! I like to be the attention and at the same time some space for myself... partner here doesn't mean love partner alone, it can be in a friendship. i dunno if i would offended my dear friends by saying this, sorry but i must say out these words which most people can't read / see them in me. erm... I can go all the way out to help u if u need me, but i'll be taken aback if one tries to 'over-act' in my friendship... I dont think close friends / good friends / best friends need to see or talk to each other EVERYDAY... yeah, it is no doubt that communication is the best way in building up a firm relationship; but it might have the negative effect if it 'over-floats'... well, even when this happened, it's either i wont say it at all (keeping it to myself) or tell another close buddy about it. So, the other party privy to that friendship usually wont (or rather never) know about it... and then nothing bad will happen (except that it may burst in my heart one day as i keep it to myself) and the friendship goes on as usual... =)
